Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Insecure Wednesdays. Yay, I remembered this time!

My biggest insecurity these days is over marketing. I just don’t have the personality for it. Have you ever taken the personality test that gives you 4 letters to describe your personality? It’s called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. I think the first time I took this test was in my college psychology class. I’ve taken it a few other times with the same results. Anyway, after you take the test you receive four letters. Here are the possibilities:

I = Introvert or E = Extrovert

S = Sensing or N = Intuitive

F = Feeling or T = Thinking

J = Judging or P = Perception

Then after you take the test you get a combination like INFJ (which is my type), but you mostly likely won’t get INFJ because (as I found out) only 4% of the human population have this type. 

Being an Introvert in an Extrovert world is probably the continual struggle of my life. One time I had this college class where we got into a big group and had to discuss business trends of the future. Part of the activity involved just jumping into the conversation while the teacher observed. I swear I thought I was going to fail the class. When I tried to participate, I felt like I was interrupting. Somehow, I managed to pull off a B. 

But then I noticed that I have no trouble talking in a group of people that I know well. That just comes naturally. But I didn’t know the people in the class well enough. On the other hand, I have taught small classes of adults and middle schoolers computer stuff without a problem. The middle schoolers were a handful too, but they were kids and since I have kids…I was not intimidated.

Overall, I would not make a good game show host or a cruise director. I don't have experience with being popular.

Anyway, this test has always interested me because I like psychology, and I’m a listener more than a talker. My favorite thing is to just talk to one interesting person and get to know them really well. I like to explore one mind at a time.

But then my other problem is I get in with a small close group of people that I just love and I feel so content I don’t want to widen out.

Now take big forums like the Kindleboards and Absolute Write. I have never managed to feel comfortable on those. I just feel like a small voice that nobody is going to hear. 

As you can see, I’m a complicated case when it comes to marketing. 

Anyway, please share your type. I figure many of you do know since the test has been around for ages, but if you don’t know or want to recheck…you can take the test free. 

You can take the test here
Then you can go here to read more about yourself (also free).

Lastly, there is one other fear I have lately. My job is going okay, but I see several people working overtime, and now I'm afraid of overtime swallowing up every last bit of free time I have. I have 3 people who depend on me to at least be home in the late afternoon/evening..I can't do overtime, except maybe on a rare occasion. *sigh*


Annalisa Crawford said...

I've taken it before, but I can't remember what I came out as. I'll take it again when I don't have a cat resting on my typing hand.

I think when it comes to marketing, you have to do what naturally feels right. If you're not comfortable with a 30ft poster of you and your book, don't do it!

Grumpy Bulldog, March Madman said...

The marketing is a pain in the butt. I mean most writers don't have great people skills; that's why they're writers. It would be great to have someone else do this, but who has money for a publicist? No one.

Miranda Hardy said...

Marketing is hard for introverts. Not only are you putting your writing on display, but also yourself.

Wendy Tyler Ryan said...

Most writers are not marketers. You don't have to feel alone in that.

I relate to just about everything you have said here. If there is a group of people, I'm the quiet one.

Andrea Franco-Cook said...

I understand your feelings about time constraints. I worry that external influences will interfere with my writing. Wish I had an answer for you. Let me know what you come up with. Take care.

J.A. Beard said...

Marketing is definitely a bear.

Cassie Mae said...

Marketing is hard, even for extraverts like me.

Hmm... not sure if I have any words of encouragement, except to try to award yourself whenever you do something out of your comfort zone :)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

It's difficult to break out of that introvert shell. I know, because I am one. I think it has just as much with being genuine online - being a caring human being. And hey, even introverts can be genuine, caring people, right?

Cindy said...

Thanks for the support, and yes Alex, they can be.

There was a time when I was very shy to even share any of my I guess I have progressed a little.

Allison said...

I think I was INTP. I know exactly what you mean about being an introvert! Sometimes it's hard, but I wouldn't change that about myself if I could--the world needs quiet listeners too.

Allison (Geek Banter)

Michael Offutt, Tebow Cult Initiate said...

I'm definitely an introvert. I really struggle with talking and communicating with people because I have low self-esteem. I feel more comfortable in making initial contact with people online before getting my feet wet and meeting them in person. I just feel people will always judge me, etc. Meh. What does a life of insecurities net you?

GalaxyCurse said...

Your Type is
Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving
Strength of the preferences %
22 62 38 56

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:
slightly expressed introvert
distinctively expressed intuitive personality
moderately expressed feeling personality
moderately expressed perceiving personality

Hmm, I wonder what this means IRL... Seems I only differ from Cindy on the last letter..

Cindy said...

Galaxy, you should check out the other link that describes your personality more. See if you think it fits. I just read that INFP's are perfectionists and good writers. :)